Abstainer or Moderator? Gretchen Rubin explains why it matters to your Happiness

Couples-2During therapy, people often identify behavior changes (stop smoking, be more social, rekindle friendships) as one of their primary goals.  Changing behaviors comes more easily to some than others.  Gretchen Rubin writes in The Happiness Project about how to apply the studies and theories on happiness to your life.  The quiz below provides information on how to make changing behaviors easier for you.

Identifying yourself as a moderator or an abstainer is important for you to make better choices about the easiest way to make positive behavior changes.

You’re a moderator if you…
– find that occasional indulgence heightens your pleasure–and strengthens your resolve
– get panicky at the thought of “never” getting or doing something
You’re an abstainer if you…
– have trouble stopping something once you’ve started
– aren’t tempted by things that you’ve decided are off-limits
Knowing which strategy works best for you can be a great tool to help you change. There is no right way or wrong way.
Let’s say you want to start walking every morning before work.
If you are a moderator, you may want to use the 80/20 rule.  Ask yourself to adhere to the behavior change 80 percent of the time, but do not try to go “cold turkey”.  Plan to walk 5 or 6 days, but plan to allow yourself 1 or 2 days off each week.
An abstainer would want to plan to walk everyday.
If you are struggling with trying and failing to make a change in your life, try the above quiz, apply the results, and see if you are more successful!